Men….Can we shoot them?

Good day!!

As some of you know my hubby drives transport truck all over the USA. He is gone for most of the week.  Sometimes its 2 days here, 4 days there or gone for 6 straight days.  So even though I’m married it seems some days that I’m a single mom.

We have 3 children ages 14, 12 and 10.  In reality there is only 3 years and 8 months between them. Yes I’m a busy mom.  I am Mom’s taxi. Parents as you know with your own kids you are forever taking them here or there or to what ever appointment or friends house that’s on the agenda for the day.

As this year has finally ended with a football championship and horseback riding on hold because my daughters horse broke its foot, my eldest son has stared throwing a fit of jealousy.  Jealousy of the time spent on these activities that HE has not gotten for himself.  Now you may ask what has he been doing while the others are busy?  NOTHING is the answer.  We have tried and tried to get him to do something, anything at all.   Short of it being life or morally threatening I DON”T care what it is, just do something.  BUT NO don’t be silly he just says nope he’s not doing anything.  We can’t make him so we just leave him. BUT now he’s throwing a fit because he wants DADDY”S attention and he’s not getting it in the amount he wants.  In my hubby’s defence its hard when you have 3 kids and you work the hours he does…..


      That man makes me soooooooooooooooo mad!!!!!!          

                 He doesn’t like the cold at all.  So any kind of activity that requires him to go outside for any reason is like pulling teeth with a screwdriver.  Take this Sunday for instance our son wants him to go ice skating outside at a beautiful park that has a rink around the entire park.  Heres a picture of it.


Yes it was cold, very cold in fact,   BUT when your son is freaking out for your attention, crying out for your attention, and begging for your attention….. YOU GO.  You put on extra clothes  and layers and you go!!  Your son is the most important thing at that moment.  Our son does not care what they do just so long as they spend time together. But my hubby’s idea is to stay in and watch football on TV.  He seems to  forgets that its our youngest son who loves football NOT the older one crying out for his attention.  So instead of just grinning and baring it hubby has to make it VERY well known that he does not want to go. Which upsets our son.  Which makes him throw another fit and get the rest of the house in an up roar.  Even with my back and the fact I can’t skate, it  has not stopped me from going with the kids to skate. I just bundle up and sit and freeze my tush off while they skate and have a great time.  So what if we are only there an hour who cares. They would at least get to spend time with Daddy.

In the end hubby came and did skate. The other two kids and I left early and waited in the warm car for about 10 extra mins while hubby and our son skated together by themselves. Our son came back to the car with a big grin on his face and was the perfect kid the rest of the night.   What more could you ask for?  

Now I ask you was that so hard to do?????


Dealing with a teenage daughter

So I have a daughter that is 14 1/2. She has a boyfriend who is 16 (just turned). My hubby and I would really like it if she didn’t have one but as we watch other girls we would rather know about a boyfriend than her go behind our backs as some do.  So we keep a pretty close eye on the two of them… least I thought we did, that is until last Wed evening.


She has a TV in her room and they were on the bed watching American Idol with her 2 brothers. Door open, lights on  and I’m only 8 stairs down a straight hall that I can see into most of her room. One by one the boys left the room. I had been going up every commercial to check on them.  As I went by the room this time I however got the SHOCK of a life time. 



                                       She had her head BELOW his waist. 


After I picked my jaw up and closed my mouth and having been seen by the both of them, I walked away.  I was in disbelief at what I had just seen.  As feeling returned to my body I went back in and talked with them. Ok so I yelled a bit as well.  Of coarse they had to leave her room too. 

My hubby and I thought about telling her she couldn’t see him anymore but thought NO that’s not the answer. If she wants to see him, they WILL find away.  Shes going to do these things one or another.  So instead we treated them as young adults and she has an appointment on Wed at the clinic. To which the boyfriend told her he would go with her. (I’m nicely surprised at that)  She keeps telling us that they have NOT had sex yet. She wants to wait till shes married she says. She told this to him and he said “there is more to our relationship that sex, so not to worry”.  Not sure if I believe that but we told her that if she was going to do adult things then she had to take responsibility for them as an adult.  They both think we are blowing this way out of proportion. BUT I DON”T THINK SO!!!!

I would rather protect her so that her life is not changed forever at 14. Because no matter what decision she makes she will be forever changed.


And I really don’t want to be a grandmother at 40  Thank you very much.

I believe….

                    I Believe…

That just because two people argue, doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. 
And just because they don’t argue, 
doesn’t mean they do love each other.

I Believe…
That we don’t have to change friends if 
we understand that friends change.

I Believe…
That no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I Believe…
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I Believe… 
That you can do something in an instant 
that will give you heartache for life.

I Believe…
That it’s taking me a long time 
to become the person I want to be.

I Believe…
That you should always leave loved ones with 
loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe… 
That you can keep going long after you think you can’t.

I Believe….
That we are responsible for what 
we do, no matter how we feel.

I Believe…
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe…
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I Believe…
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I Believe…
That my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time.

I Believe…
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you When you’re down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe…
That sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry,  
but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe…
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had, 
and what you’ve learned from them…..and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I Believe…
That it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others.

               Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I Believe…
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I Believe…
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, 
but we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe…
That you shouldn’t be so eager to find 
out a secret. It could change your life Forever.

I Believe…
Two people can look at the exact same 
thing and see something totally different.

I Believe…
That your life can be changed in a matter of 
hours by people who don’t even know you.

I Believe…
That even when you think you have no more to give, if 
a friend cries out to you…… will find the strength to help.

I Believe…
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe…
That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; 
They just make the most of everything.



Not my words but some great ones to live by.




Why is it part 2

Why is it that we treat strangers better than we treat our family?

Why is it that your pay check  is never quite enough?

Why is it no matter how much you clean there is ALWAYS something left over?


Why is it that the laundry is NEVER done?

Why is it that after 6 hours of  weeding  your garden do you find one you missed?

Why is it that people feel the need to pee in the pool?


Why is it that after you do the shopping you remember something else you forgot?

Why is it that your new puppy puts his/her front paws on the paper and figures  “hey I made it”  but didn’t really?

Why is it that your kids can never stay on the mat at the front door?

Why is it you step in the stuff your kids left you at the front door?

Why is it we usually can’ t find the right words we need at the right time?

Why is it that men STILL can’t ask for directions?


Why is it that bad aiming little boys can’t sit down when going to the bathroom?

Why is it that no matter how much you try you can never please everyone?

Why is it the phone rings, door bell rings, or something else always happens when you go to have a long soak in the bath tub?

And last but not least for today…..

Why is it that after an 8-9 hour sleep you still feel tired?


The worth of a woman




One Flaw In Women

(you will see what it is in the end)

Women have strengths that amaze men.

They bear hardships and they carry burdens, But they hold happiness, love and joy.

They smile when they want to scream.

They sing when they want to cry.

They cry when they are happy

And laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in.

They stand up to injustice.

They don’t take “no” for an answer

When they believe there is a better solution.

They go without so their family can have.

They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.

They love unconditionally.

They cry when their children excel

And cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about

A birth or a wedding.

Their hearts break when a friend dies.

They grieve at the loss of a family member,

Yet they are strong when they

Think there is no strength left.

They know that a hug and a kiss

Can heal a broken heart.

Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.

They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you

To show how much they care about you.

The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.

They bring joy, hope and love.

They have the compassion and ideas.

They give moral support to their

Family and friends.

Women have vital things to say

And everything to give.






Listen to the quiet….

 Today it is snowing and snowing and snowing.  Did I mention it’s snowing?Now that I’m not out driving in it it’s not so bad.  (Actually driving in the snow really doesn’t bother me it’s the others that panic that does.)  

But what I really like is walking in it!!  snowfall1

Have you ever been in the country and just went walking while it softly snowed?  Listening as your feet  crunch the snow beneath them.   It is so quiet,  so still,  so soothing.  The odd time you will hear birds,  or  the wind through the trees, or a stream not quite frozen.  BUT for the most part…. It’s like you are the only one on the earth.  No one around to bother you.  No cars, blaring horns, people yelling at each other, no stress (at least for the moment hehe). When I walk I feel closer to God.      IT’S PEACEFUL!!!

I also like it when I’m inside on a cold day with the fire crackling, with slippers on my feet, a blanket covering me, a hot drink beside me,  a good book  in my lap and I can look outside the window behind me and see the snow falling. You know those big huge fluffy flakes that as kids we would stick out our tongues and try and catch. Snow never tasted so sweet and good.

I know that some of you might not like the snow, cold or winter but you have to admit the snow is beautifull as it falls and decorates the trees.  How it hides  the drabby browness of whats left over from the fall. 

Leaving everything clean and fresh. snowfall-2